Should companionship ever rival traditional dating? Any of us companions has some responsibility to separate fact from fiction; I don’t recommend my services in lieu of traditional love. I’m honest with my clients and the onus is on them to keep things sane; I hope they’re not seeing me to confuse me with an IRL girlfriend. That said, I absolutely love to help prevent feelings of romantic deficiency that many men experience. I allow them freedom from the “I need to be better; I’m not good enough” feelings. I’m a nonjudgmental date, a maintenance-free girlfriend, a much-needed confidence boost, a safe space to explore.
And I can understand the appeal of what I offer; men are losing the personal connection in their lives to beautiful, youthful women and yet they don’t want to or can’t invest in a real-life relationship with one. With a real girlfriend not only does he have to be available, but he will have to fight, give back, and help her. With me it’s more one-way..he only has to do so much. I stop short of calling it selfish, but it’s self-focused on him in a way that he and I both accept. Sure, if he only dates companions he will fail to learn coping skills or steps toward personal growth, and will become lazy such that a real-life woman of my calibre will never want him. But with me and done right, he actually can fast-track a path to a more authentic self. It’s his money and it’s about what feels good for him.