This year, I learned to make love. I realize that’s an odd thing to hear from the owner of a website devoted to all things sexy and romantic, so I’ll allay your fears by telling you that I’ve known how to fuck since I first did it at age 18. I’m a rather passionate fucker, actually…the kind who never thought she’d bother being vulnerable making love.
I did, in fat, begin fucking for fun. But making love swiftly became my curiosity. I wanted to know about the deep carve of vulnerability, loved the idea of a lazy day in bed with someone adored, and quite frankly envied the way those in love looked at one another.
But, dear readers, I know that the majority of you are still interested in fucking, not making love. And so I’ve joined you for a long time now, though I knew I could probably just fuck while half asleep and attempt to mimic the latest rubbish porn, fake orgasms and depression included. In an attempt to learn about lovemaking, I decided this year to take some lessons.
After discussing my ambition with a sex coach, I was paired with a pro who was a triple-threat: certified as a social worker, trained as a tantric practitioner, and also a world-class massage therapist. Her teaching style was somewhat between Zen master and life coach, and she translated my over 20 years of fucking habits into lovemaking skills. By the end of my lessons, I was more emotionally available, expressing my needs and no longer lying to please others, and making love in a way that my soul has needed for too long. All the joy I’d felt as an 18-year-old in love came flooding back. I was stupidly proud of myself, though a few clients who couldn’t handle honesty have had to go, as I’ve evolved. Thanks to lessons, I’m in touch with my truth and bonded to those who are similarly emotionally honest.
As I write this, I’m on the way to see a client whose softness lures me to him again and again. With him, there’s lots of love. No way I’m giving him up…he’s one of the few who never needed teaching as I did, to share a piece of his soul with others.